Our Intent
This blog is an effort to create a surrogate space. Surrogate for the ideal world where we can express our fears, confusions, desires, questions and insecurities without being judged. A place which is geared towards listening with receptivity, where we can learn by other’s struggles and victories, where inspiration comes from the simplest truths and honesty helps heal and build bridges. Philosophically it may sound like an attempt at a virtual reality of sorts. But since technology has gifted us a virtual universe through cyber space. Why not?
So why just sex? Needless to say our sexual ‘self’ is the least understood, examined, healed or ‘cool’ part of our being. It is unarguably the centre point of our self-expression and desire. More importantly the divide between where sex begins (or ends) and what defines our sexuality, especially intimacy, is the foggiest area of understanding. And that confusion straddles all cultures/ages/classes/gender. Hence the terse but ambivalent question –‘Is It About Sex?’
We hope the blog will gift the modern mind a space to reflect and connect on this oceanic self that we all view with both fascination and fear. Where we are quick to understand the word sex we are completely at sea with the word ‘sexuality’. For it is truly like the relationship between ‘word’ and language. While words, our facility or lack thereof with them, are the source of our desire and ability to express, it is indeed our language that helps us build or destroy bridges with others. For language carries many, many things. It includes our tone, intonation, facial expressions and even body language, it reflects our wisdom or lack thereof and in essence acts like the river that flows from our consciousness. It is a small wonder that many, unlettered, unschooled beings have the most mesmerizing language of self-expression. Their words have the power to transform those who hear. Sex and sexuality are mirrors in exactly the same way, where sex is merely the word and sexuality the entire language of our ‘self’. Our sexuality is the larger picture with many, many colours and hues of our being.
South Asia, specifically India, is amidst an unprecedented social/cultural/economic transformation. Media has let down its hair and suddenly the sexual omnibus feels like rapid transit. The young and the impressionable are hooked and parents feel trapped in the maelstrom of technology and mass media. There are many questions and even more conflicts but few spaces where we can sit and truly search for answers.
For now it carries our wish list of open debate, sensitive and expansive perspectives, courage and vision and lots of lightness and fun too. This land mass carries great depth and science in its spiritual heritage. The sexual centre has been the core of spiritual awakening in Vedic thought. And yet modernity wonders where Khajuraho and Kama Sutra actually figure in a nation, now rife with stifling rules and mores. Or is it?
The blog like its subject has infinite potential. As a centre dedicated to healing, we hope this will turn into a collective adventure of infinite possibilities. Even though we have chosen a group of writers as triggers who bring their experience/wisdom/ideas for all to debate, we see the blog growing to include many more contributors. For, each of you who post and share your thoughts will sculpt and fashion the road this blog will take.
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MediaSwingcommented ( 9:59 PM Wednesday 03 March 2010) onCan A Straight Woman And A Lesbian Woman Be Friends?:
We would hope so....And we can only hope that we can watch! -
Ritwik Banerjeecommented (10:50 PM Wednesday 27 January 2010) on
I am quite amazed by a comment above that suggest having a friend translate the works of Gopinath Kaviraj. First ... -
gbpathakcommented ( 7:46 PM Tuesday 25 August 2009) on
your this blog has attracted maximum comments from readers which somehow proves that porn in some form or another influences ... -
gbpathakcommented ( 5:47 PM Monday 24 August 2009) on
there is no post from you after feb.,2009. why? please don't stop. keep marching ahead. do write regularly. u write ... -
gbpathakcommented ( 5:28 PM Monday 24 August 2009) on
i m deeply impressed with your views and element of self respect and courage in u. All females should be ... -
gbpathakcommented ( 5:14 PM Monday 24 August 2009) on
U r really great thinker and writer. i agree with your views and am fascinated with your spirit and confidence. ... -
gbpathakcommented ( 4:51 PM Monday 24 August 2009) on
i fully support your views. Radicals are the worst enemies of nation whosoever religion they belong to. No religion teaches ...
