pls. file IPC 498a on such husbands. That is the only solution. It worked wonderfully for me.

IPC 498a is a weapon not only to handle husband but also whole is family.

Police (or women cell) are always ready to take 498a case easily as it also benefits them a lot. Remember there is nothing to loose even if complaint is false. Many women are living and rich by filing 498a on such husbands.

Dear Ramya,

Welcome to the blog. But I'm a little confused. Was this comment meant for some other post on the blog :)

Hi Ramya

Welcome to the blog. I haven't mentioned any husbands in the article so am just wondering what you're referring to.

Best
Anusheh

Anusheh

We have a neighbour with a 14 year old daughter who had to be pulled out of school because she kept getting fainting fits and had no energy. The doctors discovered she was anorexic. It had been there for nearly two years for it to get so bad it seems. She is still on bed rest and a special diet and is probably going to lose a year at school. She is now showing signs of depression. What I don't understand is how her mother did not notice so when I asked I was told they both often went on mother/dauther diets together. BTw her mother is an ex-model. I printed your piece and gave it to the girl yesterday and she started crying when she read it. Her mother however still doesn't seem to get it.

Dear Shagufta

Thanks for sharing that story. I guess the mother wants to remain in denial.It is unfortunate because she could really help heal her daughter if she confronts herself. However its great that you gave this article to the girl, maybe it'll help her source her dis-ease.

Tsk Tsk sad to read about 4-5 years old feeling anxiety over their body and appearance. Where are we headed!?

Adults are getting swayed by the picture perfect images that are being shown on the media, kids are picking it up from these adults and also from the media which is also using young kids for advertsing their products.

I don't know how many of you remember but there was this ad where a school going girl is shown to be telling a young woman how her dress and her lipstick, nailpolish are all matching-matching only to point out at the end that the dark circles under the woman's eyes are not matching.

Such ads indirectly transfer appearance anxiety to young kids.

Nice blog guys! Keep it up!

Great read, Anusheh! Hello, and long time no see.

Obesity runs in my family. I am the smallest in the family in this regard..I am the only one, more my normal weight, for age; but, I am cherubic for my height, as I am very short, large bust! I look like a short, cupie-doll sized version of dolly parton! but, not nearly as pretty, wasp-waist, or musicly inclined(giggles.)

I fall in the guilty-parent department of this article, Anusheh(blush)

I would quip openly to my son, that I am not fat per se, only short; and that were I tall, i"d be gorgeous! or, "I am not short, I am just un-tall?" I am not fat, I am fluffy! ahahaha

never realizing, I was teaching him I hated my body size and height(guilty frown)

IF I had a nickle or a dime, for every time I'd laugh or make jokes like that; i"d be rich yes, but inherently, what I've done, is pass onto my son, the imagery that perfection of body, means perfection of the person(crimson blush)

I became aware of this a few years back, and as he see's his obese relatives, but his tiny Mom-he's in a social see-saw!!

So, I had to repair the damages of course-and a few years ago, diligently set out to correct these innocently, but thoughtless jokes about self-image, to right.

I have succeeded-but, it took a while to ensure my son, that it is not body-image which constitutes the inner package of the man; but, the inner markings of his heart/mind/soul/spirit; which is the ultimate focus.

North
http://spiritsinmotion.blogspot.com/

Hi North,

Thanks for sharing that. It's wonderful that you managed to be aware of the body messages you were giving your son and that you made an effort to change all of that.

Pick up any issue and the solution to it somehow always lies in accepting one's own self/uniqueness...physical or otherwise. Sounds so simple yet evades so many. Strange isn't it.

love

Yes, it is strange indeed Anusheh; we are all so perfect, in God's Eye; why do feel ourselve's falling short of his Blessing?

North
http://spiritsinmotion.blogspot.com/

Well North I guess its the many suspicions that we carry within of our selves not being good enough for grace. Notions of sin, virtue, morality, immorality keep us from realising the self as connected to the eternal source. Add to this the notion of a judgmental God and one is definitely closed to the experience of divinity-from within or without.

Very so, Anusheh! Though I fall in the category of twisted notions of self-imagery; it's never been my case per se, feeling short of God's essence as such.

It's often been more like being pushed one way or the other; to fit into a social stigmatic perceptive world around me; which has come to measure a person's worth in terms of perfection.

I wonder sometimes what we'd look like without our body? A cloud? A smokey form? : )

North

Personally North I feel one can't distinguish between the two. If one is rooted in divine grace and feels one is worthy of it then one's interest in social validation has to be absent. Just my two bits.

Sorry I think instead of the word distinguish I needed to say 'seperate'.

Yes, I see that now, Anusheh,,thanks!(blush)

North

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