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That Year That Day

By Meenakshi and Vinay Rai - 8:18 PM Friday 20 January 2006

Sex and Sexuality in lighter vein

DISAPPOINTED

As part of our research for a documentary on child sexual abuse, we met various people. It was an enriching exploration of some serious, funny, awkward and interesting aspects of sexuality and its notions. One such meeting was with a gentleman in an educational institution. He shared his viewpoints about the programme and then we popped up the issues of sex and sexuality with a desire to understand it with perspective to cultural boundaries. He said that he had a great desire to go to America when he was young. Finally, he got the chance to go there in 1997. He said, “I felt disappointed.”
There was a long silence. Then both of us asked “ Why? especially when you had nurtured the dream of going to America for so long.”
He said with controlled emotions, “I thought there would be sex and sex all around”, “People will be busy in just one thing... Sex”, “ I will have great time in exploring sex” but there was total disappointment. “I had always heard of free sex there and I could not see anything close to the visuals I had in my mind. I discovered family structures, boundaries and not much difference if compared to India.”

Our perception about sex is amazingly on different plane. When we encounter the truth, we feel disappointed as the case with our friend. There are many more conversations where people talked openly and more importantly honestly while making of documentary “THAT YEAR THAT DAY”. Do read them in near future.

Watch THAT YEAR THAT DAY on 21st January 2006(Saturday) on DD NEWS at 10.30 PM.

Posted By Meenakshi and Vinay Rai - 8:18 PM Friday 20 January 2006

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Hi Meenakshi and Vinay,

Will surely check out the documentary on saturday.

Thanks :)

Posted by

Shubhosree

on January 20, 2006 08:56 PM

will ck it out..if it is ur premiere screening , all the very best....

Posted by

sundar

on January 20, 2006 09:07 PM

Dear Meenakshi and Vinay

Thanks for that anecdote. You're right the projections of sex and sexuality go deep and far in wanting to see all at its most basic level. Looking forward to the film tomorrow. Just want to say to the others that we had a sneak preview at IFSHA and we all thought that it was the best film we had ever seen on child sexual abuse. Do watch it.

Posted by

Anusheh

on January 20, 2006 10:03 PM

Hi meenakshi and vinay,

will defnitely check out the film.

congratulations.

Posted by

Aachi

on January 20, 2006 11:22 PM

Looking forward to watch the film.

Posted by

Chaitali

on January 21, 2006 10:32 AM

HI Meenakshi,

Have already booked couch space for tonight... looking forward to the film.

:-)

Posted by

Sangeeta

on January 21, 2006 01:14 PM

Watch THAT YEAR THAT DAY on 21st January 2006(Saturday) on DD NEWS at 10.30 PM.

Posted by

Shruti Rai

on January 21, 2006 08:26 PM

tx for a very sensitively produced presentation guys..and a special word of gratitude to those candidly shared in the interest of the cause....hope it reaches as many people as possible....touch base if u do come to bby..can try to facilitate some screenings at places like CRY...

Posted by

sundar

on January 21, 2006 11:11 PM

Excellent film! I have never seen such a difficult subject handled as well. Kudos to you both for bringing such a critical subject up so well. Particularly liked your using more men to talk about what is usually seen as female trauma. It brought up a memory for me and I guess that is the power of your film.
Just want to add my wife and I find your parenting skills quite exceptional. Saving your pieces for our future.
Great Work!

Posted by

Venkat

on January 22, 2006 09:00 AM

Meenakshi Vinay

A standing ovation on a job well done. It is indeed the best documentary I have ever seen on csa. Seconding Venkat, I too felt finding men to voice a trauma which rarely takes into account their life, was a critical contribution. I hope this film will be aired at many more venues, especially where parents, guardians and policy makers are present.

Thanks for that

Posted by

Jasjit

on January 22, 2006 10:14 AM

Meenakshi and Vinay,

Firstly whenever I clicked on your post I was taken to another post which was named the same. So I am writing my comment here but it is meant for the recent cartoon post that you both have posted. Maybe something is wrong with the links.

Anyway I liked your Am I Right series. Excellent parenting tips. But jo cartoon apne iss blog par lagaya hain mujhe ekdum pasand nahin aya. Iss mein mujhe koee bhi humour dikhaye nahin di. The intention of the cartoon series is nice but the depiction is not at all right.

Don't mind but the impression that I have got about this blog is that it is an open space and yet sensitive to people's issues on sexuality. Par apne jo ek baat likhi hain 'peep into their intricate corners' sounds very voyeristic. Jab maine yeh para toh mujhe ek uneasiness mehsoos hui jo mujhe ab tak iss blog ko parne main nahin huin thi iske bawajoot ki yeh sex jaise ek nazook aur important issue par hain. I felt very uneasy reading these lines. They sound more voyeristic rather than greatful.

Posted by

Simran

on October 13, 2006 11:45 PM

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