I agree with you there that we need to discard the baggage we keep carrying all our lives. Yes,Sooner the better. I feel sometimes people get so used to that baggage that it becomes a part of life ... personality ...total being. I wish people must wake up to the idea of intospection and retrospection to arrive at the door of enlightment.

Dear Meenakshi and Vinay
I would like to add that you must note down your experiences and one day you two will write a book on your experiences and on child pschichology. Pl keep posting this sight to my daughter also. Its very interesting.Its enlightning to my generation as what young generation think and how their mind works.
Thanks

dear Anusheh,
I agree with u completely..
Its such a coincidence I was reading this daily words of buddha e-mail which was also pointing to what you were saying..

The past should not be followed after
and the future not desired;
what is past is dead and gone
and the future is yet to come.

Anusheh

Your article reminds me of a Rumi verse I love.

"A secret turning in us
makes the Universe turn
Head unaware of feet,
and feet head. Neither cares,
They keep turning."

And yet how difficult it is to let the past go, both it joy and pain. But I agree with your ending, "where's the choice?"

Dear Anushseh,

I have to admit but I couldn't stop laughing when I read this piece. Not coz the piece is funny but coz as I read it I realised what strange games we play in our minds to keep hagin on to that self-pity, whiny baggage that we carry with us.

Thanks for this post coz it was like a gentle slap reminding us to stop whining and instead grab the opportunity to change.

Hello everyone

Vedant thanks for that beautiful poem from Rumi.

Annie your comment brought a smile to my face as well. It is funny but I guess only those can see the humour in it who have been there and are now being able to move beyond those selves:-)

Diya thanks for those beautiful words. That's called synchronicity:-)

love

Dear Anusheh,

i use the 'well left' policy whenever excess baggage threatens me.

its like in cricket. you dont play the ball..hence no worry or fear.

you let the ball come, weigh its options and raise your bat away...everyone shouts "well left" as the ball swings towards the keeper.:)

life's problems and intricasies confuse all of us at some point of time or the other. when we decide to use this policy and weigh the option of the situation before playing ... most of the time we end up "well left" and more happier.:)

Very nice post. Baggage is just a state of mind!

Dear Anusheh...That was wonderful. Of the little I've seen of you, you've been one of the most self reflective person. So beautiful and yet simple, if you look at it. What's there?? A choice really! Having said that...can u believe, quite often I've gone on the wrong tracks, where I cud have easily chosen the smoother one.

It's all Inside story Anusheh. With a desire born inside, with honesty and discipline...it's not difficult to reach there. I've been there...rt there at the top, in those harmonious peaceful planes after doing the Inside work.

I do see the kind of work you're doing here. When I read abt the clients who come to the therapist and the story of misery goes on and on. Self pity as you were talking abt is one of the reasons....people forget that that is not the only response, one can respond to all that in a different way too and if the desire is really there to shift from one side to the other, then not too difficult.

Love..Sachin

Hi Sachin

Thank you for your kind comments. Well. we've all taken the long route at some time or the other. It's quite a task really to de-condition the minds victim psyche, because it means looking at all of our responses to life, people, circumstances etc. But like you rightly say if there is a desire then nothing is impossible.

I'm not sure though that people forget that there is another way to respond....I just think that we all become comfortable within our various states and then just dont want to bother to change them because they're familiar, and let us stay away from taking responsibility.

Dear Anusheh...You're very honest with yourself, and it gets reflected in your writings so well. I was stunned at one of the threads abt Muslims at IB. You're a Rarity, not the norm definitely. It's really a Wonderful feeling...when people break those barriers and go into new frontiers.

Deconditioniing the Conditioned. Very well said! Very neatly explained in the last para of yours...I just used that word casually "forget". It meant exactly what you said.

Love..Sachin