A Single wanting to mingle
yet
wanting to remain a Single...

Dear Aachi

What a sweet, honest lament! Indeed these foolish rather 'western' notions of coupledom need to be lost in a hurry. Dancing is the most joyous gift of the human body. it can transpose you to ecstasy like nothing else. You go boy and show them a thing or two all one your ownsome lonesome. And I'm sure soon you will be the talk of the dance floor and many drop-dead stunning women will vye to tango with you. :)

love

Dear Aachi

I have to say that secretly I've always thought "Good, let men also feel what its like to be discriminated against" when I've seen the couples only sign up. But after reading your piece I'm a transformed woman. Never again shall I wish such body-joy suppression on another man!!! So there if you want a dharna against this one, I'm ready:-)

love

Dear Jasjit,

:) I am blushing...hope they do! Tango with me that is...

Dear Anusheh,

It is one of my most simple but surreal experiences...a pub guard royally ignored my entreaties and a hundred rupee note when I had come to a pub with a boy , but the same guard saluted me the next night when I went with my cousin sister. As a revenge...I did not give him any tip. :)

Jasjit, I think we can add some smileys to the fonts...it will hepl in expressions.

Dear Harb,

wish you a very happy Guru Nanak jayanthi. Yeah, but not for long. :)

Dear Aachi!

Even I could never figure out why pubs have this couples only rule? I was in a girl's college and we also had this problem. When my friends used to discuss this many used to come up with the reason that allowing couples would prevent any type of misbehaviour by the guys since they would have their girls with them.

But then thats silly. Pubs usually have bouncers to prevent such behaviour if any.

I can understand what it must be for someone who loves dancing to find a space for dancing being laid down with such conditions.I was lucky because I had a mixed group of freinds outside college and we would hold dance parties in our homes and dance till we dropped dead!

Okay I remember this incident when we had gone for this rain dance. Again it was for couples only. We were going in a group but the ration of girls to boys was not proportionate. So some of us had to go hunting for partners. A friend of mine had invited her colleague so she lend me her boyfriend for a few minutes till we got entry into the grounds. After that none of us even bothered with who is dancing with whom. We were all dancing together or in threes and fours, some in pairs of girls and pairs of boys. But everbody was dancing in the rain and that was all that mattered.

hi,

great post on a topic close to my heart.

When I arrived in India, we, that is me and my fellow foreign trainees, thought that this 'couples only' thing would be just a strange way of trying to prohibit illicit relations from forming by trying to make sure that only established couples could get in.

Back home in Finland I love to go to techno, electro and drum'n'bass parties, just to dance for hours and hours. Particularly in the drum'n'bass scene, the ratio of guys vs girls might be something like 5 to 1.

Later I heard this explanation about drunken single guys starting trouble. I find it difficult to believe that the Indian people would turn violent so often that the club actually does not want the money they would spend for the horribly over-priced drinks - after all, the single guy is the best customer any bar could wish for.

In the west, there is a kind of a division between discos, where you go for a shot at trying to find company for the more carnal pleasures, and dance parties, where the focus is purely on music. The former is easily recognised by the low standards of music.

In the field of electric music, there are many people who enjoy music and dancing for the sake of themselves, not as a way of getting in contact with the opposite sex (which would be anyway nigh impossible considering the gender ratios mentioned above). For us the most important question when deciding where to go out is: who's the DJ? What style of music does s/he play?

Here I get the feeling, that people going to the clubs (except the psy-trance ones in Goa) seldom have a regard for the music, which is only background noise for socializing.

I do not know if you can have an asocial club culture, where people selfishly dance just for themselves and don't give a damn what others think, without the inherently different 'soulless' but still very energetic electric music. However, I do hope that this style of clubbing would become more widespread here.

Just my Finnish view.

Peace,
Reima

Dear Chaitali,

You are quite right. Once in the mood it doesnt matter on the dance floor. I personally dance looking at the revolving and rotating disco light on the ceiling. I imagine it to be a universe far away and also one which is immensely beautiful. I jump to reach out at it :)

Dear Reima,

Welcome to the site. Finland sounds like fun! I remember having read somewhere that Finland has the most beautiful lakes? is this true?

Well dancing alone and enjoying and the sort of clubbing that you have told is quite a rarity still in India. Here everyone flaunts and exhibits his presence with fashionable clothing or hip culture.

Dance as a form of personal ecstasy, though rooted in the ancient heritage of the country, has still to cath up with its beauty per se amongst the new generation of Indians.

There is an incident in a South Indian movie where the heroine forgoes her dance steps in between a rehearsal to pose for the local photographer. A great teacher of dance takes her aside and tells her "Please dont show me the dance of the body and the limbs...show me the dance of the soul...total dedication...toatl bhava..."

the heroine goes on to become the greatest dancer ever of that form of art due to this one simple advise...

lots of love

LOL....that was a funny post...a lighter look at the discrimination of gender. I like how you've taken a serious topic and made us all think, while all the time, entertaining with witty anecdotes.

Oops...my comment isn't visible, for some reason. Here's what I said earlier:

"LOL, that was a funny post! I love how you've taken a serious issue and made us all think about it, all the while amusing us with the anecdotes."

Sorry Ramya we were just configuring the site for a new anti-spam software, which is why your first comment didnt get through and the comment I wrote on your new post got consumed as well. Things should be okay now.

Dear Ramya,

glad you liked it.

:)

Interesting Thread!

I enjoy dancing in osho places with closed eyes where you don't bother about clothes etc. But would like to dance same way in discos etc....let's see if i find such places. ; - )

Cheers, Rohit

hey aachi,
hats off to you man. i am new to this site and i found this particular thread very witty but honest. very enjoyable indeed

Acchi , I too subscribe to your view. Looking forward to going some place like that..